As we go through our life, we will undoubted come across some storms. These can include several categories such as; health, wealth, marital, family, personal, emotional and physical.
But the one thing that all of these have in common is this, after every storm is a rainbow.
What does this mean?
This means that after the most horrific and bloodthirsty storm there can be seen a rainbow if light is available.
Did you notice that I said, “if light is available.”? I worded it that way on purpose. If there is no light available after a storm, you will not be able to see a rainbow.
Think back several years to the Joplin tornado. I was not affected directly by this storm as thankfully I live some miles north of Joplin. However, my town was in the threat of the storm.
Watching the weather and noticing that as the day drew on it became that eerie green haze that marks a tornado. Plus I get a bad feeling in my gut because I’ve been affected by tornadoes.
I’ve grown up in south-west Missouri and I know what the makings of a tornado look like. Characteristics include the green haze, high winds followed by the sudden death-like stop of the wind blowing (if this happens to you take cover quickly) and the infamous “growling” that sounds like a train heading straight for you. If you hear the growling, trust me you’ll know it when you hear it, take cover as you have seconds before a tornado drops right on your head.
I don’t write all this to scare the jeepers out of you, I write this to let you know that storms will come and go. And after the Joplin tornado storm passed over our town, it was the strangest feeling I’ve ever had. The sky was the deepest emerald green I had ever seen and there above it all was the biggest clouds I had ever seen. I didn’t see a rainbow that day, however, I knew that we had received a huge blessing by God allowing the storm to pass over us. Two families I know directly lost their homes that day. I felt terrible and almost ashamed because they were such wonderful families why did they have to lose everything? (No one died that I knew personally so let out your pent up breath.)
They have sense been able to rebuild their lives and move on. The storm was an eye-opener for everyone whether they were directly affected or not. People from all across the US came flooding into Joplin to help with the cleanup and rescues. This is great because the mayor of Joplin had to start turning people away because there were too many people to sustain.
My question is this; why does it take a national disaster for people to band together and help each other out?
Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren. Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. NASB
When we are being tempted, yes this will happen to you at some point, know this; God is not doing this to you and you have the power to overcome the temptation.
I struggle with certain things. I could very easily gain access to them via the internet and my wife would be none the wiser. However, I do not even entertain the idea. Why not? Because I have a love for my wife that goes beyond anything a picture or video of some woman’s breast could ever give me. Let’s put our big kid pants on as I discuss this issue. Why did you marry someone that you can’t stand to be around? Is she smoking hot? Is she great in bed? BIG DEAL!!! Any prostitute can be good in bed and be good looking too, this is their job!
What a person does when they look at nude pictures and videos of people that they are not married to pulls them away from that person. If you talk with couples that fight constantly you will notice that there is absolutely no intimacy between them. The love has been lost somewhere.
“Years 3, 5 and 7 will be the hardest years of your marriage.” They say. Not if I love my spouse. “You will fight over everything!” Not if I love my spouse. “You’re still in the newly wed stages.” Marriage over 10 years hardly seems like the newly wed stages to me. Honestly, I’m baffled that 10+ years have already gone by!
Why do marriages struggle? Why do people fight all the time? No love.
What is LOVE?
Here is what love means to me.
Love in my definition is sacrificing oneself so that others may prosper. I have sacrificed a lot over the last 10+ years so that my wife can be happy. Am I sad or angry about it? Only if I’m selfish. Instead of saying, “What about me?” change it to, “What about you?”
When you love someone, you will put them ahead of yourself in terms of needs. They need someone to love them, so love them and not yourself. They need someone to be there for them when they hurt, so be there for them. They need someone to talk to, so be that ear that listens. They need a shoulder to divert the tears away from them, give them your shoulder and let their tears run down your back and fall to the ground behind you as the two of you walk through life.
Do hardships come? Yes.
Are they sometimes hard to deal with? Yes. This is why they are called “HARDships”. They are a vessel that brings unwanted things into your life.
As the high tide brings in hardships and deposits them in the beach, the low tide is what anchors them in your life. You can look at the monstrosity that is sitting right in front of you and say, “I will never get rid of this.” This is because you are in “LOWtide”. When you are down and depressed is when it is the hardest to move on and get things back in order.
Which is why you must be patient and allow God to bring in the tides once again and remove the hardship from your beach.
Therefore be patient, brethren, until the coming of the Lord. The farmer waits for the precious produce of the soil, being patient about it, until it gets the early and late rains. You too be patient; strengthen your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is near. Do not complain, brethren, against one another, so that you yourselves may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing right at the door. As an example, brethren, of suffering and patience, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. We count those blessed who endured. You have heard of the endurance of Job and have seen the outcome of the Lord’s dealings, that the Lord is full of compassion and merciful. NASB.
Yes we have ups and downs. Happy times and sad times. What we do is a matter of response. With every situation, we have a series of responses that we can take. You have a 50/50 chance of doing the right thing in any given situation.
What will you do the next time you feel tempted to do wrong? I’m also talking about the smaller more innocent things like when women wear lower cut shirts and they bend over. Or in my case, most women are considerably shorter than I am so there is no need for them to bend over. I saw a woman’s belly button ring once because her shirt was so ill-fitted. Think about others when you get dressed in the morning. Ask yourself, “Would this cause someone to look at me in the wrong way?”
Do you want to go to family get togethers and people complain because your giblets are hanging out? This is your family! Unless you’re trying to get a date, (family reunions are not the place for this activity!) show some decency and cover up. This goes for guys too. Just because its summer time doesn’t mean that it is time to get some sun while the in-laws are over. If you love them, prove it to them.
If you need someone to talk to, I would be more than happy to chat with you. I’m not here to try and impress anyone, I’m just trying to be me.