Are you a weed?
Seems like an odd question to start an article with, but, none-the-less this is the heart of this conversation. So let’s jump into this one head first. I love thinking about words. It is a strange thing to some I’m sure and for others it’s something that they never do which is why I think their vocabulary is nothing longer than four letters. We should start off by looking at the word itself.
1. a valueless plant growing wild, especially one that grows on cultivated ground to the exclusion or injury of the desired crop.
2. any undesirable or troublesome plant, especially one that grows profusely where it is not wanted:
The vacant lot was covered with weeds.
6. a wretched or useless animal, especially a horse unfit for racing or breeding purposes.
You can obviously tell that I omitted some of the ones that were not relevant to this discussion. Now that we have the definition out of the way, I can begin to explain my thoughts surrounding the question.
I was sitting at our table lazily looking out the front windows and letting my mind wander about like a loose cow. I was really trying not to think, but lo and behold the voice in my head whispered to me in a knowingly way, “Are you a weed?” At first I was taken aback, shocked that someone would ask if I was a weed. But then I got to thinking about it, and I answered, “At times, yes.”
So then my mind went to the races with this thought. It has been over three days and I finally gave into it and wrote this article so it would leave my brain alone. Seems strange but it is the only way I can get mental peace and quiet, at least until another question gets asked. The way I’ve always thought about it has been definition #1. And this could be anything; clover in a wheat field, grass in a clover field, wheat in a grass field, etc. It is undesirable in a certain area, but welcomed with open arms in another. Stuff like this can really boggle my mind when I think about it. It is the exact same thing, but depending on where it grows is how it is valued. Think of people with this one. People in the cities are the exact same as the people in the mountains which are just the same as the people living on the beach which are just the same as people on a boat. We all have a head, two arms, two legs, and other similar qualities that make us human. But, we change the value of people based solely upon where they were raised. This is really divisive and extremely judgmental. Who are we to say what a person is worth based on where they were raised?
#2 is where I’m going to pick on people. If you have sensitive feelers, you should skip this paragraph. Have you seen that person that thinks they are better than everyone else? Are you one of them? Let’s look at it and ourselves really hard for a moment. It starts off by saying, any undesirable or troublesome plant. Okay, for our example we have to change the wording. Here is how it should read; any undesirable or troublesome person. Wow, that made a difference. Now think about this, how many people do you know that wouldn’t miss a beat to spray a weed with weed killer? I work with retail and there is a herbicide section that gets stocked, a lot.
So what does that say for you if you are a weed in someone’s eye?
#6 is one that I hadn’t heard before, but I still like it. Are you completely useless? Not even fit for breeding? That seems a little harsh, but there are people out there in the world that are in that category. I have my days where I struggle with feeling like I’m actually worth something. They are tough to get through. Trust me, I know a good deal about it.
Okay, enough beating people over the head with the hard stuff. Let’s look at what we can do about it.
It’s an amazing thing when people take control of their lives. We see it more often in the weight loss area, but also with people that want to quit smoking or drinking. However, we can also do so much more with ourselves on a personal level. Here is the problem with that…
We want things to happen instantly.
But unless you spray your garden with a herbicide, getting rid of the weeds and seeing the change happens slowly. Painfully slow actually. Which is why most people find change to be a hard thing to deal with because it takes so long to take a noticeable effect. It isn’t that the new diet you’re on isn’t working, it’s that you are not seeing dramatic enough results from it. I’ve tried losing weight in numerous ways in the past so I understand what this can feel like.
Here is another concept to think about concerning weeding and change in our life. Who around you needs to be weeded out? Got some friends that are not necessarily the best fit for where you want your life to go? Grab a hold of the root ball and give it a solid yank and get that thing out of your life. The same can be said for family members. Just because you’re related doesn’t mean you have to be around them. People have more power and control over their lives than they understand.
I’m going to sum up my thoughts now with this; Don’t be a weed that needs removed. Be the plant that provides for others around you. Whether that be a small pepper plant, or a massive oak tree. Do what you can with what you have.